Most people suffer from anxiety in some form, whether your inner core is shaken or your outer shell is revealing stress. Here are four simple steps to get rid of your anxious thoughts:
A self-assessment at its most basic level: What is the source of your stress and anxiety?
If you answered, “I don’t know?” then you’re either suffering from a heavy case of denial, or you’re completely out of touch with your feelings.
Here’s a hint: Potential sources of anxiety usually include: money, social situations, money (can’t live with it, can’t function without it), location/geography and people.
Step 2: Reflection
Next, look deep into your soul and analyze the source of your mental trouble. If you are like the rest of us, once your start suffering from anxiety, the little pebble on the hill always turns into an avalanche, as a single problem transforms into a bigger issue.
Sit quietly and meditate (closing your eyes, breathing in and out from your nostrils), calming your thoughts enough to diagnose the stress, or stresses, and then hone in on the absolute source of discomfort. There is always one source, or root cause, of all this anxiety!
Step 3: Change
This might be a crude representation, but you’re either going to sit in your own mess and let things happen over and over again, or make significant, healthy change that will improve your lot in life. Some people prefer to remain in the imprisonment of denial and avoid change and real, deep thought at all costs, but that is a recipe for an endless anxiety loop!
Corrective actions include, but are not limited to: severing relationships that are harmful, have passed their expiration, represent past abuses, are not centered in love and support, and are simply helping you pass time; finding a less stressful place to live, which includes owning or renting a house that is too expensive, or living near other sources of stress; finding a new job – most of us are in dead-end jobs that drive us crazy, so either get more training – through education – or simply look elsewhere for a new opportunity; and, money – if you have dug a hole for yourself, then dig out! Stop complaining and live within your means! Material possessions don’t make you happy long-term, it’s real substance and the positive direction of your life that matters!
Step 4: Action
Now that you’ve diagnosed the source of the stress and committed to real change, it makes sense to actually do something about it! We all should have plans for our lives that will make it all better, but the action is what separates the people who succeed in ditching anxiety from the others that remain tangled in its sticky web. If location, location, location is the ultimate in real estate, then action, action, action is paramount in ridding yourself of anxiety! Take a shot! What’s the worst thing that can happen?
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